Help me - help me please
The old lady shouted "Help me, please help me"
Sitting in her chair she was
wrapped in multicoloured shawl
refusing to elaborate
She couldn't see and couldn't hear
Refused to have her hearing help
Continued shouting "Help me help me"
"Won't somebody help me please"
Yet every time I tried to help her
Shouts vociferous and rude
Decrying all that I might do
Kept her control of life
The caring carer came and cared
By soothing - shushing - holding hand
She knew the way to give what help
That I could never give
I checked and watered Mother's plants
Agreed - a cup of tea for both
Might settle she - refusing help
At least from me
I sat and tried to bring her back
But Mother's gone away from me
Far further than she's always been
I leave defeated
-
What is this problem born of age
Distressing to a child that was
That child of distant infancy
Dependence trained
Old age is - either dying quick
Or failing fast - or failing slow
Yet still the person is the same
But more the same than once
We all are born - we all will die
Our legs or heart will - failing - kill
Inside the brain the death is cruel
When death won't come
So must we kill to help them out
Or must we leave it all to fate
And who has need and who has right
To play with death
M.C. Newberry
Thu 20th Dec 2012 19:37
I have every sympathy with the predicament portrayed - and the painful irony that Mike picks up on that it is those closest (eg. family) who often are - and feel - the most powerless...surely a good case for competent independent care that is one step removed, yet so much more acceptable to the sufferer than enduring the awkward embarrassment of being "nursed" by those who bottoms a sick and aged parent used to wipe!
Charlotte - suffice to say: you are not alone in your experience...so well set out above.