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Sexless Marriage

This was the eighth straight night that I'm crying lonely
She hasn't laid a hand to show intimacy
Promise of tomorrow, caring ultimacy
For the giving of tasks to share burden only

Heavy snoring on couch before the kids bedtime
Should I startle her up for a snooze fest cuddle
With open leg napping for the release puddle
Or do I let her be; basement self-stroking slime

Counselling to advice that led to some options
Where the shame of sharing didn't disturb the covers
And resentment followed to break of non-lovers

I will not accept this, separation motions
To freely chase the fish that will water my pond
And to dry puffy eyes for libido respond.

 

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Louis Audet

Tue 8th Aug 2017 00:17

Thanks Maxine

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Maxine

Mon 7th Aug 2017 00:42

Louis, you don't shy away from any topic when it comes to your poetry... this is a great, and in some cases as this one you are sharing something very personal. Aside from the pronouns and a few other words this could have been written equally from a woman's perspective.

In my opinion (and we all have different opinions - these can be based on personal experiences, our environment, our attitudes, any number of factors...) intimacy is a huge factor in a marriage or partnership. And sex is very important to me to achieve that, it is opening yourself up completely to your partner.

Just my two cents.

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Louis Audet

Sun 6th Aug 2017 21:02

Intimacy is a huge part of a strong marriage, brings you closer. Obviously, there are other parts that need to be there like communication and trust. And yes, a couple should have sex on occasions, you shouldn't be begging your partner to be intimate with you.

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Jane C. Steele

Sun 6th Aug 2017 20:39

I'm not sure I've made a point, other than for some women, sex is no big deal, certainly not the be all and end all and not the motivating factor in a relationship.
There is something in your poem that worries me vaguely. You talk as if you have a right to sex. As if your wife at that time was failing you. The blame lay with her........
This to me, is disturbing.

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Louis Audet

Sun 6th Aug 2017 19:44

I hate to disagree with a woman on this, but ..since my separation, I've talked to many women that would argue against your point.

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Jane C. Steele

Sun 6th Aug 2017 17:26

It isn't a huge problem for a lot of women.

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Louis Audet

Sun 6th Aug 2017 14:08

Sexless marriages is a huge problem .. it's in 20% or more of the couples. I was cleaning out my inbox the other day and saw an email I sent to our counselor in 2013, and this is why I wrote this poem. Obviously, the marriage ended soon after that.

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Jane C. Steele

Sun 6th Aug 2017 09:22

The poetry is fine, the sentiment leaves me rather like your wife - a little cold.

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