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"ME TOO"

I'm intrigued by the recent "Me Too" movement which is born from the revelations about Harvey Wallbanger, movie mogul, cinema tsar, casting couch Cassanova et al.

Let me say from the off that I have no truck whatsoever with men who do not know that "No" means "No". Beyond "No" it is rape, pure and simple. But I am a bit perplexed by posts I have read which lump unwanted sexual advances into the same bin.

Let me, by way of explanation of this seemingly inflammatory suggestion, ask this question, "How is a chap to know if a sexual advance is unwelcome or welcome without making it?". The answer I can hear being said is, "He must obtain consent". So my follow-up question would be, "How?".

If he asks a woman if she is "up for a spot of uphill mutton" (or any other more poetic phrasing) is this not, of itself, an unwelcome sexual advance?

Perhaps there should be a Consent Form available on the Net for men to carry around or, better still, perhaps he could slide a rubber johnny across the candlelit dinner table and ask her to sign the packet.

That would work, wouldn't it?

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John Coopey

Thu 19th Oct 2017 07:40

Not sure a nod of the head or a smile would be admissible as evidence in court afterwards, MC.
I think a checklist like you're given at the Blood Transfusion Service is the way forward.
I hereby give consent to
Copping a feel
A bit of diddling
The Full Monty
Etc
(Tick as appropriate)

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M.C. Newberry

Thu 19th Oct 2017 03:17

Oh JC....you irrepressible romantic!
But your point is well made. Women feel insulted if no
hint of an advance is forthcoming - and make out they're
insulted if it suits them when one is made. Their best
weapon against a male boor is either avoidance in the
first place or a withering verbal put-down if things get
that far. Wits of the past like Dorothy Parker and
Mae West knew their stuff and a man respected and accepted what he got - or didn't, as the case may be.
Perhaps a man might carry a form of poetically framed
consent which can be slipped across a restaurant table
- along with the bill (surely acceptable in this age of
equality?) when the hour and the opportunity seems suitable? No need for verbal misunderstandings -
a nod or shake of the head and a smile for either would suffice.
But it's all about timing, isn't it?

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