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What Does It Take?

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What does it take to be able to regard yourself as a good person, hmm?
What does it take? 
Is it that you always give to charity? 
Or have the clarity to never make a mistake? 
What does it take? 
Maybe you tithe, give money to God and think it odd that others don’t,
Or won’t, is that their mistake?
To want to have and eat every single slice of the cake?
And if all of their professed notions of fairness and parity are fake,
Then what does it take? 
And why should you care?
Who ever sat you down and said honestly, that, “Life comes with a guarantee to always be fair?”
That every time you, “Roll the dice they’ll always come up sixes,”
That every time you need a shoulder to cry on or a friendly ear, they’ll always be there?
When the truth is that most friends come and go like leaves on a breeze, offering only temporary fixes,
Of what needs to be a more permanent prescription, 
So why should you care? 
Maybe the truth is this, 
Though life offers no promise of safety or pledge of eternal bliss,
That the momentary pleasure of a warm embrace or a secret, stolen kiss,
Is all that we can ask for or generally expect, 
But the fact that one or two people in your life will always stand at your side and help you shoulder any strife, 
Deserves some deep respect,
That they would consciously select the hardest road to help bear your load and ask for nothing in return, 
But abide at your side and willingly bear your weight when you can no longer face each twist and turn, 
And shrug off the pain of carrying you and continue, step after step, grateful of their task and the lessons that both of you will learn, 
To stand for both of you when you cannot, but find the strength to do it anyway for both your sakes,
Maybe that’s what it takes,
Yes, that’s what it takes. 

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Jason Bayliss

Mon 30th Nov 2020 06:26

Thanks Paul for your kind comment, and Aviva you are quite right of course, that is really the point of the whole piece, i.e. if you want friends like that you have to be a friend like that, good old reciprocity. And I wasn't suggesting that having a friend like this makes you a good person, but rather that being a friend like this makes you a good person, at least as far as your friends are concerned. And not having a friend like this yet doesn't mean you're not a good person, it just means you haven't found each other yet. I'm 52 years old and I have two friends like this, I met the first in my early twenties and the last in my late twenties and I'm deeply grateful for both of them. The underlying implication is that these are the kind of people that really matter to us all, so it's also the kind of friend we should strive to be, and I do so love an implication. ?

Thanks Aviva, I really enjoyed that question. ❤❤

J. x

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Aviva Rifka Bhandari

Sun 29th Nov 2020 18:00

There is such a natural flow to this poem and just enough internal rhymes to make it sing - it's a pleasure to read it. I wish it ended later though, and I don't just mean because of how nice a read it was. I feel like it has ended up saying that if you aren't fortunate enough to find such a special friend then you aren't a good person and nothing else you've done would be enough to make you so.. and I don't think that's what you intended. But this poem could continue (From 'maybe that's what it takes...') ...Yes, that's what it takes / Not to find such a friend / But to be one.

And then it would be saying that to be a good person (to have made yourself worthwhile) you need to have done this at least once, or tried to.

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Jason Bayliss

Sun 29th Nov 2020 11:53

That's absolutely right Kev, those true friends are few and far between, and I think when we stop and consider what it takes to be that kind of friend, we can see why. You have to be prepared to sacrifice a lot to be that kind of friend, and if you can look at your life and find just one of them, you're a very lucky person. The world can be a harsh environment, and life a cruel mistress, sometimes all you can do is offer your hand to someone who is on their knees, and accept one when you're on yours.

J. x

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kJ Walker

Sun 29th Nov 2020 09:43

so true.
I know of people who have literally hundreds of friends on facebook etc. These aren't real friends. if you have one or two people in your life, who will stick by you through thick and thin then you're a lucky person.

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